We found another great book when we went to our organization's office, it's written James R. Lucas entitled, 1001 Ways to Connect with your Kids.
I really find it very important to connect with our kids that's why even if I already have a lot of books in line for me to read, I couldn't resist but buy the book too. I just scanned through it and I find the ways very creative, simple and very helpful for parents to build lasting relationship with their kids.
Here are some of the ways to connect with your kids:
1) You're the Best - Three simple words: "You're the best". Said often enough and without elaboration or explanation, these words can build a mountain of self-worth for your children- and it will be hard for them not to love somebody who makes them feel good. Best at what? being who they were designed to be. And these words are so much better that " You're better than____." the fatal disease of competition.
2) Enough is Enough - If you want your words to have more value, use fewer of them. It's supply and demand. " The more words, the less meaning, and how does that profit anyone?" ( Eccles. 6:11). If you want your words to " stick", it quality, not quantity, that does the trick. Kids remember sentences, not essays.
3) Leave a Note- Be there even when you're not there. Leave a note for your child to find in the morning, on his bed or on the floor by his door. As he climbs out of his sleep and dreams, your child will awaken to a little portion of love. And it's better for him than coffee.
... I'm excited to read through and apply the 1001 ways in the book. I know these are lifelong ways to build so to have closer relationship with my kids and as they grow older, I will not just be a Mom for them but a friend as well.
I really find it very important to connect with our kids that's why even if I already have a lot of books in line for me to read, I couldn't resist but buy the book too. I just scanned through it and I find the ways very creative, simple and very helpful for parents to build lasting relationship with their kids.
Here are some of the ways to connect with your kids:
1) You're the Best - Three simple words: "You're the best". Said often enough and without elaboration or explanation, these words can build a mountain of self-worth for your children- and it will be hard for them not to love somebody who makes them feel good. Best at what? being who they were designed to be. And these words are so much better that " You're better than____." the fatal disease of competition.
2) Enough is Enough - If you want your words to have more value, use fewer of them. It's supply and demand. " The more words, the less meaning, and how does that profit anyone?" ( Eccles. 6:11). If you want your words to " stick", it quality, not quantity, that does the trick. Kids remember sentences, not essays.
3) Leave a Note- Be there even when you're not there. Leave a note for your child to find in the morning, on his bed or on the floor by his door. As he climbs out of his sleep and dreams, your child will awaken to a little portion of love. And it's better for him than coffee.
... I'm excited to read through and apply the 1001 ways in the book. I know these are lifelong ways to build so to have closer relationship with my kids and as they grow older, I will not just be a Mom for them but a friend as well.
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